Have you ever been in a moment, doing something, where you forget where you are? You forget that there are other people in the room? 

I usually give the example of – and I know it might sound cheesy – dancing at my wedding with my husband for our first dance. I did not realize that there was anyone else in that room until the electricity blew, the music stopped, and everyone sang to us. 

An “everyday” example of this is working on a project around the house or at work. You get so into what you’re doing that time flies by. 

These are the magical moments we want to create more of that we call the “genius zone”. You’re more productive, you’re happier, you’re in a momentum (or flow) state, and you’re aligned with what you want to accomplish. 

The question is, what can you let go of to allow more of these magical moments?

Let’s first establish what’s happening in those moments. You’re in the flow, typically doing something that you enjoy, and YOU ARE PRESENT.

That’s the key. You’re simply living in that moment with yourself and something that you love. We call that “the success zone”.

Is there a certain time of the day that’s more likely to help you get into that zone?

Some are morning people – loving the quiet of the morning before anyone wakes up. Others love the peace of late at night. 

Make sure to be honest with yourself here. I know a ton of people who insist that they are morning people, yet I see them come alive and create late at night. 

What is it that you’re doing when you enter your Success Zone?

Are you working on a project? Are you talking to somebody that you care about? Are you doing work that you’re really enjoying? 

From there we can look at what root elements are involved in those activities and look at where else we can bring them out. 

Who are you in your Success Zone?

When I’m in those moments, I know I’m feeling more free. I’m feeling more like myself. I’m in alignment with what I want to accomplish. 

Sometimes I let my inner child out and have fun to encourage these moments. I’ve learned that if I play some 60s, 70s, or 80s music and do a little dancing and singing along, it brings me to a place where I can more easily get into my success zone.

What do you need to do to create more of those moments? 

Do you need to have a conversation with your boss because working 60 hours a week is too much? 

Do you need to have a conversation with your family about boundaries? Maybe you like having uninterrupted, quiet meditation time in the mornings.

Do you need to ease up the time you spend with certain friends because you find that all your time is spent complaining?

How can you set up your environment so that you’re not disturbed or you have the right people joining you?

Sometimes we have to even think about what and who is surrounding us.

Are the right people in the room, literally and figuratively? Are you trying to do something with the TV on when you know you need silence? Are your non-essential notifications muted or turned off?

It all comes down to taking care of yourself and possibly changing who you surround yourself with.

That includes:

• TV
• Social Media
• Negative People
• Judgmental People – Whether that’s judgmental to you or about others.
• Drama – How many times do you meet with a friend and find that an hour goes by and all you’ve both done is complain and/or gossip?

None of this is going to get us into our genius zone. 

And let’s be clear – no matter how in tune and aligned you think you are, you can still get pulled in. And that’s okay. 

The key is how quickly can you realize it and reset yourself.

Resetting can be as simple as taking a moment to take a deep breath, close your eyes, and say, “This is not mine”.

Typically we would go into a deeper, longer process to really figure out your Success Zone, but this is a good start. 

What can you do today to move closer to your Success Zone?

1. Get clarity. Review the questions I’ve posed in this newsletter. What does your Success Zone look like? Who are you and how do you feel in those moments? What can you let go of so that you can allow more in? What boundaries need to be set?
2. Take a break from the news and social media. If something is important enough, you’ll hear about it. The news is the news and it’s not gonna change whether you’re watching it or not. The same goes for social media. But they will lower your energy and keep your distracted.
3. Start or increase your self-care. Can you add a 5-minute meditation every morning? Can you add looking at the sun when it rises? Can you take a vacation day at work? Can you ask your family for quiet, alone time in the mornings? Is there a podcast you’ve been dying to listen to?

A big part of the Success Zone is Self-Care.

I cannot tell you how many times I talk to people who want a better life, but they say – I don’t have the time, I don’t have the money, or things are too crazy right now. 

Unfortunately, if you don’t take a step back and take care of yourself, the crazier things will get. But when you do take time for yourself, you have more to bring to the table.

I like to use the classic example of an oxygen mask. If we had to pay for an oxygen mask on a plane, we would pay for our kids first. We would pay for our spouse first. We would pay for our loved ones first. Then we wouldn’t get the oxygen we need and we wouldn’t be able to help them. 

You have to help yourself first.

No matter who you are, what gender you are, or what your demographics are.

If you’re not taking care of yourself first, you’re not able to help anybody else around you. As much as you try, you’re only giving pieces of yourself to any situation. 

Taking time for yourself is how you will be able to show up as the best version of yourself. And when you raise the bar for yourself, the people around you see you as an example and start raising their bar because they don’t wanna lose touch with you. 

Disclaimer: There will be some who are unwilling to rise to the occasion and they will start to lose touch. They’ll find their way, but you cannot drag people along. 

All you can do is walk the walk and whoever joins you, it joins you.